We don't always know what to do when storms hit us, whether bad weather hits us internally or externally (such as the current hurricane season), but here on today's mini pod, Christa gives everyone the much-needed reminder of doing what we can do (and even should do) when choices are otherwise limited. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ix3o_O_CAcc

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Even if you're lined up with meaningful work you enjoy, if you're burning the wick at both ends in any way, your central nervous system doesn't know how to respond and your body may be experiencing trauma. If you're feeling weary on the journey of life or faith at all, make sure you take a deep breath with us and shift back into health as we invite the esteemed author and professor Dr. Chuck DeGroat on the podcast today to address helping you to find safety with yourself and with God as we share healthy rhythms for you and your marriage and family as well.

Show Notes:

Chuck is a follower of Jesus, a husband to Sara for 30 years, and father to two amazing daughters. He served as Professor of Counseling and Christian Spirituality and Executive Director of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Western Theological Seminary Holland MI and is also a faculty member for the Soul Care Institute.

Chuck is also a licensed therapist, a spiritual director, author of five books, and retreat leader/speaker. As a therapist, he's specialized in issues of abuse and trauma, pastoral (and leadership) health, and navigating issues of doubt and dark nights on the faith journey. He also trains clergy in issues of abuse and trauma, conduct pastor and planter assessments, facilitates church consultations and investigations of abuse among pastors and within congregations.

You can learn more about my books at the link below and his newest book is available for pre-order now. It’s called Healing What’s Within: Coming Home to Yourself and to God When You’re Weary, Wounded, and Wandering.

Visit the website. www.ChuckDeGroat.com

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In your marriages, sometimes you may feel like the only purpose you have is just to get by. Today’s episode offers tips for each and every type to not just survive, but to thrive with self-care, connection, but also specific purpose so they can live out their beautiful God-given dreams together and individually as well. Tune in here for just the mini-dose of inspiration you need this E + M mid-week!! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bociq4n1tSY

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Often you can’t quite put your finger on what’s wrong in your marriage but you know you’re floating in opposite directions, drifting apart, and headed into a danger zone. This episode with marriage and leadership coach Lance Howard, Enneagram 9 (9-6 pairing) is full of great insights and tips so you can find more about your God-given gifts and goals individually and together. This is an episode for anyone who is struggling to find their values, live them out, or speak them out.

More about Lantz:

Lantz Howard has spent over 20 years in coaching, leadership development, therapist and pastoral roles. Lantz’s approach to developing executive leaders integrates the maximization of hope, gaining an outside perspective, devising practical strategies, and implementing measured discipline. This is all done with warm accountability aimed at achieving the leaders desired outcomes. At any given time he is coaching a handful of high capacity faith driven leaders. Lantz has coached thousands of hours and is a trusted advisor for business owners, CEO’s, and senior pastors across the country. Lantz host a weekly podcast titled “Whole Hearted Leader” and has authored a coaching workbook titled “Jump Start: 46 Quick Wins for the modern man to be fully alive from the bedroom to the boardroom” and is working to publish his first book on how to create a passionate marriage and killer business without losing your soul. When Lantz is not engaging in deep strategic conversations he is training for a Spartan race or planning an adventure with the family. 

Listen to Lantz' podcast here! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whole-hearted-leadership-with-lantz-howard/id1558551037

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Conversations around furniture are frequent in couple's sessions. Where couples sleep, how they sit, where they eat - all of this carries meaning to every couple. In other words, the setting for the stories we tell matters. How does the way you set up your home matter to your marriage? There are many intimacies lost and found in the way we organize the furnishings in our home, vie for power, and distance, struggle, and lament can result. Listen to this essential E + M mini to get tips for crafting a home that is intimate and yet offers the autonomy and creative solutions you need. Tune in to this must-listen mini here!

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Today's must-listen podcast episode is a vital piece of the sex talk you never got - a conversation about sexual issues as they show up in almost every marriage as a result of shame and contempt born of most men's first encounters with sex because of the earliest introductions to sex via pornography and other counterfeit distortions with marriage therapist and author, Sam Jolman, Type 4 (4-4 pairing). Here we bring a respectful conversation geared toward the reminders of the God-given gift of wonder, awe, and innocence that you can truly bring into your marriage for a renewed sense of heartfelt love and mutual partnership. Sam also courageously brings forth an introduction to a necessary book that deals with these issues with kindness and courage with life-changing practical tips and insights. Sam's book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality," has been cited by John Eldredge (Wild at Heart) as "the most important book on sexuality you will ever read." Join us as we delve into our lives and the conversations we need to have about a healthy expression of sexuality, as well as the best ways to heal.

“At last. A kind, wise and poetic guide to the complex and beautiful issue of our sexuality and a path toward the wholeness every man longs for. I’m serious—this is the most important book on sexuality you will ever read.” -JOHN ELDREDGE BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF WILD AT HEART

Show Notes:

Find Sam Jolman's (foreword by John Eldridge) book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality" here: https://a.co/d/fFPhBAs

Find Sam Jolman's website here: https://www.samjolman.com/

Connect with Sam on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/samjolman/?hl=en

Find Sam's Substack here: https://www.samjolman.com/writing/

Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/lOqUgZYsnig

Email [email protected] with your Enneagram in Marriage book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden Chapter (on Sex) in The Enneagram in Marriage

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In our quest to ensure our needs are met, it’s very common to start the work by getting self-care and then getting irritated with our spouse when they don’t know exactly how to meet our needs. Today’s mini-podcast helps you to get unstuck when you’re in process and trying to move through conflict in healthy ways and then find a disconnection ensues. Whatever you do, don’t withdraw away from the most important conflicts you need to have, instead listen to this mini episode for encouraging tips on how to get back to peace together right here!

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Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened without support. Today on the podcast, writing teacher and coach Mara Eller, MA, Type 4 (4-7 pairing), gives us that support as she shows us how at the right time and with the right support, we can relive some of those stories in a supportive context where we are safe, and as well as move past these hurts with wisdom and integration. Mara also shares beautiful strategies for narrative writing from her class called, Unearthing Beauty that she shares about on the podcast as well today and invites you to join her there as well for an even deeper dive! Join us on the slow and careful yet empowering walk through the hardest peaks and valleys of your story with a shifting, empowering process today right here.

Mara Eller is a teacher, writer, editor, and coach with a passion for transforming pain into purpose through the power of story. Her signature writing program, Unearthing Beauty, teaches students a repeatable process for unearthing a fuller picture of who they are and claiming authorship over their lives, while also producing a polished personal essay. Grab a free exercise to find the heart of your story at maraeller.com/heartofyourstory.

Find Mara on her website: https://www.maraeller.com/unearthing-beauty-class

Transform your pain with purpose: Learn more about Mara’s Unearthing Beauty writing class here: https://www.maraeller.com/unearthing-beauty-class

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Follow Mara’s Substack here: https://maraeller.substack.com/

Find Mara's free resources here! https://www.maraeller.com/classes/#heart-of-your-story

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Today in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual exploitation in relationships and around the world. We have a leading world expert with us to talk about it today, Exodus Cry founder, filmmaker, and artist, Benjamin Nolot (Enneagram 4), who shares the mission and issues involved on all sides of sex trafficking and exploitation, from pornography to sex trafficking. Make sure you tune in as we break down understanding of cycles of disempowerment, why people get caught up in these cycles, and most of all, work together to bring awareness and abolish sex trafficking, porn use, and other disempowering and unhealthy ushame-and-power-based sexual practices and to protect our next generation from being exposed and exploited as well.

Read Raised on Porn: https://shop.exoduscry.com/products/raised-on-porn-book

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Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma and StoryWork therapist Adam Young, (The Place We Find Ourselves podcast) Enneagram 8 (8-9 pairing), encourages us to do exactly that - sit in the hard and allow yourself time and attention to what's holding you back from thriving so you can heal together with support. This is a must-listen episode as we examine his journey on this, why many people ignore their own issues in favor of helping others with theirs, and what we must do to truly find health and healing from our past.

Deep dive with Adam Young and his therapy and trauma tips with conversations on his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves: https://open.spotify.com/show/36bU2hcguX97EDOi9Ja0tQ

Pre-order Adam's book, "Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything," here: https://a.co/d/7KVJJ2F

Find Adam's website: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/

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Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/riP-QQqsRP0

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Every couple desperately needs to know how to repair, yet few know the steps for doing so. Finding one another after a conflict is hard, since couples typically either self-protect by imploding while still hurt or by lashing out. Today Christa educates you on one-to-one tactics you can use to bring life back into the relationship. In today's E + M episode, individuals get the chance to get those tangible steps, both in general and type by type. Tune in to this must-listen episode and save it again for a time of conflict, too!

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